The (Second) Best Day

If you have not read the blog before this, "The (First) Best Day," you should do that now!

Believe it or not, we had a beautiful, sunny day in London. It was one day out of seven, but it luckily coincided with our day out in London. We enjoyed a hop-on-hop-off bus tour around the city, which was a great way to see all the various areas of town in one day. The bus took us everywhere- from Parliament and Big Ben, to the Royal Palace of Justice, to the South Bank, to Hyde Park, up to the Camden area, and everywhere in between. The best part was hopping off to see Shakespeare's Globe and the Sherlock Holmes Museum! Again, nerdy, nerdy fun!




We went back to London the next day for a cruise on the Thames and a trip to Harrods (for Mom)! Harrods was overwhelming and crowded; Dad and I sat in the cafe downstairs while Mom walked around. I did see their "Egyption escalators"...the place reminded me of Vegas! Just overdone and themed- not my cup of English tea.

What I did find lovely was meeting up for lunch with friends! An old friend we know from a vacation we took about ten years ago met us for lunch in Stratford, and we had a really wonderful time catching up with him and learning more about England and that part of the country. We also met for lunch with my cousin's girlfriend's dad, who I had met in the fall when I came to London for the weekend. The four of us had a fantastic lunch together- my dad even got a (half) pint! These two lunches were easily highlights of the trip- good company, good food, and great conversation!

I was very very very very sad to see my parents go at the end of our trip, but it was much easier than saying goodbye six month ago because this time, I know I get to see them in just a few months. On the train back from London I made this video, which I worked hard on. Please be kind- I'm about as tech savy as an Amish Elder.




I should also mention...while the three of us had a MARVELOUS time, we missed Amanda SO MUCH!!!! It just wasn't complete without her!

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kw

ps, we were there on Valentines Day...how cute are my parents??

The (First) Best Day

Everyone knows I'm really close with my family, border-lining on obsession. You can only imagine how wonderful it was to spend a week with Mom and Dad after not seeing them for six long months!

As Dad once worked in Gent and Mom had come to visit, they really weren't interested in another trip to Belgium. And I mean I love my adopted country, but spending a week away is a lovely treat. So we headed to England! Home of Shakespeare, Sherlock Holmes, and English speakers (no matter what my dad says, my parents only speak English). We spent seven glorious days together seeing the country and, more importantly, relishing in each others company:) For me, every single day was The Best Day.

Our trip started at Heathrow Airport, but our real adventure began about five miles outside of Heathrow when this happened:



Impressive, right? Don't worry, it didn't stop our week of driving all over the place! We visited Stonehenge, Oxford, Windsor Castle, Stratford-upon-Avon (!!), Cambridge, and of course, London. It was quite a week, and we spent most of our evenings dining in our pjs and watching West Wing DVDs on my computer to make up for all our running around.

Oxford and Cambridge were really great to see- they have very old college buildings, plaques where famous intellects once lived, studied, or discovered things, and a good amount of Indian food. Windsor Castle was incredible and comes highly recommended by the Waffle, especially St. George's Chapel, which holds Henry VIII, Queen Mary, the Queen Mum, and dozens of former Kings, Queens, Princes, Princesses, etc. The only downside (or upside!) is that Mom and I had "I'm Henry the Eighth, I am," stuck in our heads the rest of the day. And Stonehenge? Well, it looks...just like Stonehenge.



My favorite day trip to rule them all? Stratford-upon-Avon, birthplace of Shakespeare. It was overwhelmingly exciting. We saw where Shakespeare was born, where he was buried, and the Royal Shakespeare Company that carries on his legacy. It was good, nerdy fun for a Literature major and season-ticket holder at the Shakespeare Theatre Company in DC. I even worked on my iambic pentameter that day, just for fun.


This post is getting a bit long, so I'll let you ponder pentameter while trying to get Herman's Hermits out of your head as I break this in two.

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kw

Progress

As I mentioned at the beginning, it sometimes takes people with autism a while to open up. For some individuals, it can even take five months.

“Annie” (middle-aged) barely acknowledged my existence when I first started helping out. For the first month, when I would say hello, the most she would do was turn her head a little or give a little smirk. I knew to let her be and just give her time, to be consistent and friendly. Around the holidays, she started saying hi back- except she would first ask my name, and then say, “Dag, Valerie.” I’ll take it. During this phase and the following knowing-my-name phase, she would give me her smirk in response to other questions, such as, “how are you,” or “how was your weekend?” Hey, progress.

Yesterday something amazing happened. Annie started talking to me- unprompted. I guess she was so excited about her pending birthday that she wanted to tell me all about her birthday dinner. It was so nice to have her talk to me! I even saw her smile: a relaxed, toothy grin. I didn’t know she had teeth! It was such a pleasure to see her walls come down and see a big, natural smile behind them. I asked her if there would be a cake, and if she liked cake…we had a conversation. It was awesome.

Also yesterday, the quiet but very astute “Art” asked me if I knew the Three Stooges (sorry, Dad, "why soi-tenly" doesn’t translate into Dutch). Even though he usually likes to sit alone and rarely likes to talk, he later approached me at the bus stop to ask me which of the Stooges videos were my favorite, and if I knew that they were related, and did I know Shemp. I told him how my father loves the Three Stooges and finds them very funny, and asked Art if he knew Laurel and Hardy. We had a brief conversation about old Hollywood comedy. It was so cool!

I have inside jokes with some of the people I work with. We sit together on the bus and I don’t care that people look at us because we’re having funny conversations or seem different. I love that when the kids see me walking around campus, they get this big, wide-eyed gasp and an excited wave-and-grin to go with it. I am another person whom they’re excited to see, and what better feeling is there in the world?

I feel really blessed to have gotten to know these people, even if it takes half a year just to get a conversation going. That’s six months well spent.

xoxo

kw

The Costa Spain

Many things are an adventure: traveling, life, Space Mountain. I would only name a few people in this category, one of which is my friend Marisa. Originally from Queens and currently teaching English in Spain (where her kids will forever says their 4's like New Yorkers), Marisa is one of the most fun people I have ever known. The opportunity to visit her in Madrid was a no-brainer, especially since I had never seen the Spanish capital and time with my dear and lovely friend was loooong overdue.

Madrid...probably best known for its football team, this city really does have a lot to offer. First of all, as the capital, there are numerous old-style administrative buildings plus the impressive Royal Palace of Madrid, which was built to rival the palaces at Windsor, Versailles, etc. The city's Cathedral is a very large and impressive neo-gothic structure which is beautiful to behold, inside and out. Plus, Madrid is incredibly green- there are huge parks surrounding the city, most of which are used by Madrid's youth in conjunction with the lack of open container laws in Spain. I was very impressed with how easy-going the feel of Madrid is, in addition to having such cultural and national gems. Here are pictures to give a better impression of the city:







This is not why I want to move to Madrid. The reason I want to move to Madrid is much less aesthetic and much more gastronomical. We. Ate. So. Much. Food. It was amazing. We had Indian, Thai, Chinese Vegetarian, Turkish, Israeli, and Mexican. It was so delicious, I had access to types of cuisine I usually crave to no avail in Belgium. Oh, Monday morning before I left I had a Spanish Omelet, since when in Rome, eat eggs. I easily gained a few pounds in Madrid, but that was all a part of experiencing the culture!

However exciting I find Asian food (and trust me, I find it pretty darn exciting), the best part of the weekend was hanging out with Marisa and her friends. Marisa is both a lively and genuine person, meaning she attracts all sorts of fun and good people. Going out with this group in a capital of nightlife was a real treat! We had a great time at the bars- especially the Mexican one where we got to dip into nachos while savoring our margaritas! Spending time with Marisa and her friends was easily the highlight of my trip.

The lowlight? Getting my passport stolen. Honestly, was NOT as bad as it sounds. I mean it kinda sucked, but I didn't really like my picture anyway (I looked orange. Not Posh Spice orange, Oompa Loompa orange. And I hate Oopma Loompas). All I had to do was go to the US Embassy on Monday morning, which was easy since I was already in the capital, and get a temporary passport. At the embassy, they treat US citizens differently than everyone else. It felt like going to a really hot nightclub with a long line and saying, "I'm with Obama." I was in and out of the Embassy in under an hour and a half with a new, albeit three month valid, passport. Total cost? About 70 Euros and the experience of being in a place where everyone understood English. Not too bad.

All in all, another very successful adventure with another very dear friend. Good company, good food, a better passport photo...I'll take those few pounds as the cost of Spain!











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kw

Learning Autism

A good friend of mine has a brother just a few years younger than us with autism. When it comes to finding a cure, he feels conflicted. He told my friend that by saying there needs to be a cure for autism, it means there's something wrong with him, and he doesn't feel like there is. It is only with this experience that I'm first learning to truly appreciate what he means.

I work with really wonderful adults. I do feel very sad sometimes that they have boundaries which keep them from interacting in society the way average people do, partly because they deserve to have the same experiences, and partly because the rest of us deserve to get to know them. But another part of me thinks that to say there's something wrong with this group is unfair and inaccurate. They're not incomplete people, there's nothing about them that is wrong or bad, and enough of them have told me about their beloved families and pets to prove that we aren't so different. I'm still realizing what this means to me, but for now I just feel so incredibly blessed that I have gotten to know a group of people that most don't get to meet.

With all of my experience, I am often asked my opinion on various autism topics. As the resident expert in my peer group, I always respond with, "I'm not an autism expert, but from what I know..." and I now have something more concrete than that to offer: if you haven't heard the news, the original study saying that vaccines cause autism has been retracted.

Here is an excellent article talking about the latest on autism and the progress that has been happening in the field. It's pretty interesting stuff!

And now for the fun part of the blog- the adorable and hilarious kids. This week I started working with a new group of children, and they are a scream. When Tine introduces me to the kids, she tries to get them to say my name the way I say it instead of the Belgian pronunciation. One kid took this so much to heart that he kept announcing "Vaaaaalerie....Vaaaaaaalerie" over and over again! When one of the kids in his group came late to the art studio, he pointed at me and said, "Vaaaaaalerie!!" He also jumped in shock when I told him I was from America. "That's faaaar!"

Another little guy who I worked with last week told me very matter-of-factly on Wednesday, "I only speak the language I know." Alright, kiddo. Got it.

That's all for now, let me know if you have questions or thoughts on autism- I'm happy to discuss!

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kw

Veggie Haggis

Having gotten accepted to the Masters of Science in Health Inequality and Public Policy (M-Schipp? Masters in Hipp? H.I.P.P Yeah you know me?) at the University of Edinburgh, I decided a visit to the Scottish capital was imperative. It's tough being me.

Edinburgh is another city with a very rich history. I choose to skip most of it because, well, it's a bit complicated and can mostly be summed up in a few choice Shakespeare plays and Mel Gibson movies. However, the notable residents of the city is an impressive list that includes Sir Walter Scott, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, Robert Louis Stevenson, Tony Blair, Alexander Graham Bell, Dolly the Sheep, and, of course, Harry Potter. Yes, Edinburgh is the birthplace of Harry Potter, and thus a very important city for the history of mankind.

So why am I looking at Edinburgh? The MScHIPP program (really, they NEED to get a better name for that) is unique in the world- I haven't come across anything like it and it fits two fields I'm interested in pursuing. Plus, it's a world class university ranked in the top 20 in the world, with former students/alumni including Charles Darwin, Gordon Brown, J.M. Barrie (Peter Pan), Adam Smith, James Clerk Maxwell (theory of electromagetism), and some of the authors listed above. Plus, the city itself has a really great college-town feel to it, is vegetarian friendly, and has many, many guys with accents. What more could a girl need?

I was in Edinburgh for about three and a half days, staying with a girl I know from back home (yaaaaaay Michigan!) I have to say, it was SO much fun being in college again! We went out with her friends a couple times, I met different students from various places studying a variety of things, and we even went to the student center bar for a pub quiz! We saw a local band play at a coffee shop, got amazing Indian food, and I got to wander all around campus at see university buildings and signs for upcoming student events. It was really fun, and got me so excited to go back to school!

Still waiting to hear back from a few other institutions, but I liked both the city and the university of Edinburgh very much! And if I do choose it, I can go from being the Kosher Waffle to the Veggie Haggis! Either way, I'll definitely spend some time there next year:)

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kw